Thursday, November 7, 2013

Comebacks...not the smartass kind

I've been seeing it more and more lately.  "Celebrities" from the good old days (namely my early high school days) popping up in random television commercials.  Making a comeback via ridiculous spots promoting law agencies, website registration companies...really people?  You ain't no Betty White and you ain't never gonna be!  She's had more comebacks (if you can ever really say that she was gone) than I have freckles!  (I'm Irish Canadian and my parents rarely slipped, slapped or slopped when I was a kid...I don't tan, my freckles unite.) 

Is that all they want to be known for?  Being one of America's most loved Dads (even though he is Canadian), or the martial arts phenom who can hover between 2 tables in the split position while eating a bowl of cereal?  If that's what makes them feel alive, well then who am I to judge really right? 

I guess my point is that, save for very few of us, nobody knew who they were going to turn out to be 20 years ago.  I thought I was going to be married by 25, have 2 kids, have a clean house and money in the bank.  None of that is true now (well I DO have 2 kids...plus one) and does it really matter?  Who cares if my life didn't go according to "plan"?  The best plan I ever made was to throw that one out the window.  I have an amazing family (who I'll admit some days I want to throw out the window...not literally people, but down your cell phones), a lovely home filled with chipped Ikea furniture and have no clue what I do for a living anymore. 

I have always said that regrets are stupid in the sense that every decision I have made in life has led me to where I am now, good or bad.  Let go of who you were then and embrace who you are now, whether it's Mike Seaver's dad or the mom at the bus stop who wears the same jeans every day, never quite has her make up on yet and eats breakfast as her home daycare kids are walking up the drive.

I don't want to make a come back.  The girl I was in high school can stay there, she didn't really have all that much fun anyway.  I always had friends but never felt like I fit in.  I went to parties but hated sitting there watching everyone else just let loose and have a good time while I sat there wondering when it was time to head home.  So ya, she can stay there, but I'll take with me the amazing people I knew there and still know today.  None of us are where we thought we would be really, but we've grown into some pretty incredible people (I won't say grown ups because I'm not sure we are yet). 

In the words of another (and WAY hotter) LL, "Don't call it a comeback, I've been here for years..."  I think it's just taken me a little time to see it.